"I have no time!", "I'm busy!", "I'm in a rush, I need to run now!"
All these are common laments I often hear. In silent protest, a voice in my own head wants to respond, "Oh dear! Please slow down. Take three deep breaths."
I have been there too. Busy, fully engaged in whatever was expected of me -whether socially, or at work, or fulfilling family commitments, all whilst managing my own expectations and demands. As if that wasn't enough, I was constantly seeking reassurance from others. I was making sure everything and everyone was taken care of and happy. In retrospect, all I wanted was acknowledgement and perhaps recognition of my own self-worth. But I was ignoring the scream for help inside of me.
Rushing for time and never having enough to spare are relatable and it's what most of us struggle with.
Maybe you can handle all this busyness much better than I? Being pulled in all directions day in day out left me no down time, just torn into a gazillion pieces. I was in a stalemate for several months, miserable, exhausted and hopeless.
Luckily, I discovered an effective way to overcome overwhelms and I want to share it with you today. You too can now manage your busyness and find time to take a breather!
Try these tips:
- Take a seat on a chair. Lengthen your spine as you breathe. Adjust your upper body so that your ears, shoulders and hips are aligned. Gently draw your chin in towards the back of your head. These minor adjustments should free your back and body and bring some lightness and ease into your mind.
- Close your eyes and take three slow breaths. Focus on the depth and length of your breath. If you need more breaths to free yourself from busyness, go ahead.
- Create your time. Pick only a maximum of three tasks from your to-do list for the day and not everything, prioritise. Allocate enough time for each task. Any time in between tasks or after completion of all tasks, is the spare time you create for yourself.
Maybe you are protesting after reading the tips, first step has always being challenging and doubtful. "Practice, practice and practice...all is coming." ~ Sri. K. Pattabhi Jois, Ashtanga Yoga
Let's take a step back and acknowledge how we really feel when we are constantly racing against time? It is natural to feel great when we accomplish whatever we set out to do. This gets our adrenaline pumping and makes us want to do more. However, the constant rush of these happy hormones may cause some undesirable side effects, especially if we are drawn into this 'do more' mode all the time.
Insomnia, burnout and cardiovascular diseases are real and relevant to us. These have direct negative impact on our quality of life and long-term health and wellbeing.
I am sure you know of friends or someone dear who may be silently suffering from these modern day health concerns. The more you hear yourself saying "I am busy" or catching yourself rushing for your next appointment, take 3 deep breaths and find time for a quick break. All of us have 24 hours a day and even if we take away 8 hours of sleep time, we are still left with 16 hours to handle all our affairs. It should not be that hard to find some spare moments for a break, to notice if your heartbeat is racing or your breathing is shallow.
Nobody would say "I welcome poor health." But we are potentially inviting poor health into our lives. Especially if we do not pause often, be mindful of our body and mind and take stock of what's important.
A nurse once told me, the best place to learn about the importance of good health is in the hospital. People would only start to think seriously about taking charge of their health and wellbeing when they are in great pain. Not just physical pain but also pain from paying huge medical bills and the loss of daily pleasures and family.
Not everyone is born with good health. If you are one of the fortunate ones, it's your responsibility to safeguard it. Until we see those we love in great suffering, we would not truly appreciate and be grateful for the intelligence and ability of a healthy mind and body.
Good health is the best investment to provide yourself as you age. Choose wisely and make time for meaningful and important things in life, which you can then treasure for a long time.
Do you still have no time? Take 3 deep breaths and count your blessings!!